Sometimes Facebook provides a little wisdom just when you need it most. Perfect example is this post from Positivity Vibrations :
" This is for all the "lonely" people.
The difference between being alone and being lonely is that the lonely ones do not like being alone. But being alone need not entail loneliness. There is no reason to not appreciate being alone, or at least to not see it as a bad circumstance.
Being alone means space and reflection without the background noise. Being alone means absolute and full attention to yourself. Being alone means no compromises made to cater to others. Being alone... means pursuing your passions. Being alone means knowing how to take the time to appreciate who and what you are. Doing these things, alone, need not be a lonely process. If I feel lonely being alone, then I need to cultivate a better relationship with myself.
It is not about having a quantity of others' presence that makes one less lonely, but the quality of appreciating your own presence which enables one to love inside and outside of oneself. "
The difference between being alone and being lonely is that the lonely ones do not like being alone. But being alone need not entail loneliness. There is no reason to not appreciate being alone, or at least to not see it as a bad circumstance.
Being alone means space and reflection without the background noise. Being alone means absolute and full attention to yourself. Being alone means no compromises made to cater to others. Being alone... means pursuing your passions. Being alone means knowing how to take the time to appreciate who and what you are. Doing these things, alone, need not be a lonely process. If I feel lonely being alone, then I need to cultivate a better relationship with myself.
It is not about having a quantity of others' presence that makes one less lonely, but the quality of appreciating your own presence which enables one to love inside and outside of oneself. "
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This actually speaks to the introvert personality I have, even though I'm extroverted in certain situations. Anyway, I feel more at peace lately than I have in quite a while...and I've learned sometimes the best thing you can do for yourself is let go. In a way it's very rejuvenating. Let go of the things you can't control. Let go of the people who have done you wrong and/or repeatedly do so. Let go of others' opinions if they're not supportive or trying to make you into something you're not. Let go of the failed avenues or the wrong paths; they're learning experiences.
Sure, being lonely happens to the best of us... I'm no stranger to it. I didn't know what the lesson of all my struggles for the past year would be... although now I'm beginning to understand it might be a test of faith and a hard shove into taking care of myself after I've focused on so many other things for the duration of my educational career. One step at a time? Yeah, I'll go with it.
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